Month: January 2014 (Page 4 of 5)

This video is now private because of how much it has been taken out of context by people who only read the title. The title was an exact copy of another very popular video online that was really telling people how to “get” a Korean boyfriend. Unfortunately that video was teaching phrases like “Will you sleep with me?” Part of the reason for making this video was to counteract that so people would find our video, a subtle way of making people question why they wanted a Korean boyfriend. We wanted to do it in a sympathetic way and not just lecturing. A lot of women who are searching this online are from developing countries and are dazzled by the Kpop and Korean dramas and see a Korean boyfriend/husband as a way out of their own poverty and into a different lifestyle. The reality is that many go through marriage agencies and end up married to poor, often abusive, older Korean men in rural areas in Korea. Our other target audience was teenage girls in western countries who get caught up in Kpop and Kdramas and buy into that fantasy. They are not malicious, only misguided and we don’t feel it’s right to attack them when all they need is a bit of time and education. Unfortunately our video was too subtle for some (or they didn’t actually watch it). Because it’s something people love to bring up, even though it was years ago, as a way of accusing me of fetishizing and being racist. Context is everything.

http://youtu.be/iWzLfQ2ur0w

So we want people to look at the reasons why they want a Korean boyfriend and what their expectations are. It’s fine to be attracted to Korean guys and be interested in them, but when it comes to a relationship, make sure you really like them and aren’t just dating them because they are Korean.

Our advice relates to meeting guys in similar situations to how we met our husbands. We can’t give advice on dating other types of Korean guys, such as Korean American guys, simply because we don’t have that experience. Our husbands grew up in Korea and came to Australia as adults on temporary visas with no intention of settling down in Australia. There are many other things to talk about in regards to this which is why we will talk more about it in other videos.